Why I’m Trusting My Gut and Pursuing a Homebirth

Why I'm Trusting My Gut and Pursuing a HomebirthWhen I found out I was pregnant with my second baby, I scrambled to find a new OB/GYN in Las Vegas. If I were still in Houston, I would have had no problem with selecting the doctor that delivered my 3 year old son. She was more than my doctor. She was someone I considered a friend.

I was very disappointed that few doctors & hospitals encouraged VBAC or vaginal birth after cesarean in Las Vegas. After my emergency c-section, my previous doctor assured me that I was a great candidate for VBAC. I had a low risk pregnancy and was progressing through labor (5 cm dilated) when my son’s heart rate began to fluctuate which lead to an unexpected trip to the O.R. (operating room). She supported a VBAC for me & offered to send research papers to my new providers, if needed. However, the providers or doctors here in Las Vegas were still a little resistant.

Finally, in my 2nd trimester, I thought I found the right doctor after learning that one provider was not certified to do VBACs and the other refused to see me due to my previous c-section. But in our last few visits he continued to warn me of uterine ruptures which are very small, less than 1% risk. I’m completely aware of the risks. I also know that a natural childbirth minimizes any chances of uterine ruptures. It was at this moment I knew the traditional hospital route might not be the best option for me. I had this gut feeling that if I didn’t go a different route, I would optimally end up with a repeat c-section. I tried to ignore it but my doctor continued to confirm that feeling.

Not wanting to end up with another c-section is one of the main reasons, I am pursuing a natural childbirth. Although, I informed my doctor that I was nervous about uterine ruptures, he continued to discourage methods that minimized my risk of uterine ruptures & medical intervention such as; laboring at home or forgoing pain medications like epidurals. I knew from my first pregnancy that laboring at home as long as possible decreases your chances of medical intervention & c-sections. Discouragement from your doctor has a tendency to amplify fear. This didn’t sit well with me, again, I got this feeling that I couldn’t ignore. I also explained the other reasons that I was seeking natural childbirth (see them below) and still wasn’t receiving the level of support I needed from my doctor.

Other reasons for a natural childbirth:

1.) I had a bad reaction to the pain medication the first time around. I felt an itching sensation throughout my whole body for nearly 24 hours after my c-section. Talk about annoying.

2.) I believe medical interventions like pitocin and an epidural caused my son distress during our labor.

3.) The risks associated with multiple c-sections outweigh the risk of a VBAC.

Secondly, the doctor advised me to get an epidural because of the hospital’s policies. Again, I’ve had a bad reaction to the epidural & they also heighten the chances of both uterine ruptures and repeat c-sections. I was disappointed that he would recommend this knowing my desire for a VBAC & risk associated with an epidural, in addition to laboring at the hospital exclusively.

I knew that would be our last appointment. I went back and forth for a while about my options but I had to trust the nagging feeling inside of me.

Ideally, I would love to labor at a birthing center, but you won’t find one in the state of Nevada. I could find another doctor but I was already entering my 3rd trimester and not having luck finding a supportive provider. This doctor was the 3rd one I’ve met with during this pregnancy. I needed a provider that would fully support and encourage a natural vaginal birth after ceaseran.

A Crossfit friend recommended her midwife. I scheduled a consultation and from there I knew I wanted a midwife for Pre-natal care. After about two pre-natal visits, I felt empowered that I could have a successful homebirth. I know that my labor and baby would still be monitored. I also know that the hospital is always there as a backup if wanted or needed. My midwife has highly recommended physicians on stand-by but she’s more than qualified to handle a low risk natural birth like mine.

I recently sat down to write out 3 reasons why I was pursuing a homebirth and wouldn’t you know it, I came up with something like 10 reasons that I will be sharing shortly!

Thank you for all your well wishes and prayers. I really appreciate it. I’ll be sure to keep you updated on my peanut’s arrival.



25 thoughts on “Why I’m Trusting My Gut and Pursuing a Homebirth

  1. Jeaonna

    I’m so excited for you. As a Doula I love hearing stories of women who are empowered enough to demand the right to choose how they bring their child into the world. I send lots of prayers and love for a safe and beautiful delivery.

  2. Jessica L

    Wow I can’t believe you had to go through so much. My first pregnancy was also an emergency c-section and when I got pregnant with my 2nd child my doctors praised & insisted on VBACs. Ive only heard good things about VBACs. I would have loved to have gone to a birthing center or used a midwife but that wasn’t an option for me bcuz my pregnancies are considered high risk (incompetent cervix). My 4th child I had naturally….not my choice (that darn anesthesiologist was tied up) but let me tell you it was the best delivery I ever had and the recuperation time was so much better than using drugs for pain during birth. Hope all goes well for you. Have a blessed birth!

  3. Lucinda B.

    I believe you are so brave to have a natural home birth. If I have a second child or more. I want to have natural water births. Congratulations and I pray all goes well.

  4. Sarah R

    Good for you! My mom had six -including me- of her 13 kids (last two were twins!) at home and she preferred it a lot over hospital! So happy for you!

  5. Christine @MomsNCharge

    This is so inspiring Tamara! One thing I’ve learned (and continue to learn) is that when that gut feeling won’t go away, it’s there for a reason. I’m so glad you’re listening to your intuition and doing what your body was made to do. I will definitely keep you in prayer and can’t wait to hear about your experience 🙂

  6. cassandre

    I am so happy that you’ve decided to do a VBAC. When it comes to anything medical all you have is your gut. I have been seeing a midwife for over 10 years and a midwife delivered my daughter. Te practice I go to has a few midwives and on the day I gave birth there was a blizzard outside and my regular midwife trecked through the snow storm after I had already given birth just to see how I was doing. Midwives are fantastic as they labor with you throughout the entire process.

    1. Tamara Post author

      Hi Cassandre,
      I didn’t know you delivered with a midwife. Thank you so much for sharing. I love to hear stories like. My midwife has a great team and well respected even in the medical community which really helps to decrease any of my fears.

    1. Tamara Post author

      Thanks Stephanie, See that’s what I like to hear lol! Praying for an easy labor. My first one wasn’t too bad until they cut me. I hated the recovery.

  7. Carin Kilby Clark

    That’s wonderful that you’re trusting your gut and doing what’s right for you and your baby. I had a c-section with my first (angel) baby and went on to have three healthy, VBAC births after – our wills are strong. I look forward to the ten reasons and can’t wait to see your new addition in a few weeks. :).

  8. Carin Kilby Clark

    That’s wonderful that you’re trusting your gut and doing what’s right for you and your baby. I had a c-section with my first (angel) baby and went on to have three healthy, VBAC births after – our wills are strong. I look forward to the ten reasons and can’t wait to see your new addition in a few weeks. :).

  9. Lin

    You’re not going to regret it! All the women and younger women in my family did a natural birth and have more than one child. One of my cousins used an epidural with the first child and felt guilty and regretful when she ended up trying natural birth with her second baby and said it was such an amazing experience! She was in control during the whole labor because she knew what was going on. She was the one saying when she was ready to push, lol. It hurt her a little but she said it’s a beautiful, relieving feeling and such a great bonding with the baby. The fact all the girls in my family agree about natural birth being better all around; whether the hospital or at home. I know I will never drug myself or my baby while I’m bringing him/her to this earth. Why would I want to miss anything? ???

  10. DrSelina

    I am so sorry that you had a hard time getting the support that you needed. I am a OB/GYN in Portland,OR where recently VBAC has been widely accepted and promoted by the hospitals.
    Most of your board certified, residency trained OB/GYNs have extensive experience with VBACs because we went through the craziness of residency. The reason behind your providers’ hesitancy could be related to the hospitals’s policies which may discourage VBACs because of the millions of dollars that have been spent on malpractice lawsuits when there have been bad outcomes. Midwives are more willing to offer VBAC’s, malpositioned twins, and other similar issues at home because they are not weighed down by the malpractice concerns, or the need to accurately report their bad outcomes.
    You are correct, catastrophic uterine ruptures occur rarely, One reason for this is the increased monitoring and low threshold that providers and hospitals have for proceeding to cesarean section if there is a problem. In the past 6 months, my practice has delivered over 12 ladies who wanted VBAC, 7 of them delivered vaginally, 5 underwent cesareans. Of these 5, two had a uterine window at time of cesarean (a very thin segment of the uterus which is the source of rupture), 2 were actively rupturing, and one chose to terminate her VBAC for personal reasons.

    As a passionate physician, I want to argue, point by point, your assertions regarding epidurals, pitocin, etc, but I really want you to have a safe and joyous birthh experience, so I will not. I am sorry you don’t live in a state where the physcians do not feel comfortable and secure offering you this option of birth that is widely supported and lauded by ACOG, our governing body. Situations like this just make women more suspicious and distrusting of OB/GYNs

    I wish you good luck, a safe birth, and a healthy baby.

    1. Tamara Post author

      Hi Dr. Selina,

      I think it was so sweet of you to read and comment on my posts. Thank you very much. Its doctors like you and my provider in Houston, TX that I still have faith in the healthcare system. And I completely agree with the hospital’s policies and understand that that’s the reason that my previous doctor encouraged an epidural. I hope more hospitals will encourage and embrace VBACs in the near future especially if the c-section rate remains so high in this country.

  11. kaydane

    I am honestly so glad I found your Instagram page! I am currently 9 weeks and 5 days with my first pregnancy and I have decided to do an at home water birth. It was the first thing I decided on. I then went on to find a midwife. I live in Toronto, Canada and midwifery services are free for expectant mothers – so I jumped at that opportunity without hesitation. I feel good about my choices and my partner could not agree more. I am not just working on building my exercise routine. Not sure where to start. But I am about to hit the gym! I guess that’s a good place to start. lol

    1. Tamara Post author

      Congratulations! I wish midwives were free in the US. But I can’t complain. I’m getting a price break. Start off slow with what feels comfortable. You’ll be fine!

  12. Mimi - MimiCuteLips

    Great read, it is so important to have a doctor that supports what you want. Especially when it involves bringing another life into this world. Kudos to you for sticking with your gut and finding someone to support that decision in a safe and healthy environment. I can’t wait to read about this home birth, I swear I shouldn’t be this excited. lol I had two regular births at the hospital.

    1. Tamara Post author

      Hi Mimi,

      Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting. “it is so important to have a doctor that supports what you want. Especially when it involves bringing another life into this world”. Thank you for that. Some people will question your decision at every turn when it comes to alternative routes. I appreciate your support and excitement for my home birth lol

  13. Ros Marie

    Hello Tamara,
    I’ve been searching for myself in the midst of this, I’m a natural girl world although I’ve been wearing my hair natural for some 20 + years. I had no idea, the natural hair world ha become what it has…still not too sure what it has becoming, but it sure is. Your site and story was one that caught me as quite genuine and rest assured comforing. But what I can say as a wellness and birth coach, I’ve birthed 3myself, 1 at home 1 at birth center and 1 …my 40 baby at the hospital. I am here to send some love and encouragement so that you know that you have support! I’ve labored with many a momma, some vbac, some natural, some medicine I induced….. but uultimately we want a healthy mom and baby. Big fan of midwives, birthplans, hubby and sister girl support if possible, but most of all trusting that God knows what he’s doing. Trust God, the process , your body to do exactly what it is supposed to do. And it will Many, many blessings to you and your family. Love yours belly pics…so precious, You can do this,
    Much love sister!
    Excuse any typos, my keyboard died, and I have no plug. Not a fan of the touchscreen keyboard. ..Anyhew…carry-on carryon….

  14. Jacci

    You are so right about everything you said about natural birth. Laboring at home in your environment is the best place to labor

    Epidural do affect the baby and labor. It’s hard to know when to push or not when you are numb

    Id also recommend soft music, aromatherapy, massage and no unnecessary talking while in labor. All of those things encourage a calmer yet more productive labor. Also and I’m sure your mw will tell you this but during your surges (contractions) relax as best you can. Don’t tense up. Ive found doing so can be counterproductive to the work your body is trying to do.

    Natural birth talk makes me happy and super chatty. Lol. Can’t wait to hear your birth story


    1. Tamara Post author

      Thanks Jacci! I appreciate your comment! I’m already got my music, aromatherapy, and massage stuff ready. Just waiting for labor to start.

  15. Nalu

    Dear Tamara, best wishes for a good rest of your pregnancy and safe delivery for both you and your child. I’m absolutely 100% behind your opting for a home birth and natural birth!!! Your family is in my prayers =)


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